What Makes an Influential Leader?
Is there an influential leader that you really admire and aspire to be like? What is it about her that makes you want to be like her? When you look closely, you’ll find that it’s not because she’s charismatic and mesmerizes you. Or that she “leads” by bullying or intimidating. A good leader influences others by example, by bringing the best out in those around her because she walks the talk.
We work closely with leaders at our trainings and over time we’ve noticed certain students standout as influential leaders because they…
- Restore calm out of chaos.
- Express their emotions instead of squelching them.
- Have deeply meaningful conversations not confrontations.
- Have a knack for diffusing tricky situations.
- Remain calm during negotiation sessions.
- Listen without becoming defensive when criticized.
- Find a nugget of wisdom in the criticism.
- Are positive and resilient when faced with setbacks.
- Are not only admired but inspire respect and loyalty.
How do they do it? When you understand that, you’ll hold the key to knowing how to model the same behavior as you step into a leadership role. It’s important to note that at the heart of success is Emotional Intelligence. Most likely you’ve heard of this before. Daniel Goleman, who coined the phrase Emotional Intelligence, defines it in this way:
“Emotional Intelligence is the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships.”
It’s been noted that Emotional Intelligence (EI) is twice as valuable as IQ in the business world, since the emotional health of the team directly impacts productivity, motivation, engagement and loyalty. This is good news because Emotional Intelligence can be nurtured and like a muscle, grow stronger with use.
The foundation of EI is a strong self-awareness. When you develop a sense of certainty about your own abilities because you’ve explored your strengths and limitations, you’ll become more confident, which is a hallmark of leadership.
Self-awareness in turn makes self-management possible, which creates the ability to stay calm under pressure. Learning to control your emotions and finding positive ways to express them will give you flexibility and adaptability.
Not only are leaders able to control themselves, but they understand how other’s think and feel. By using that knowledge to build rapport and trust they’re demonstrating empathy. When you know what makes other people tick, you can bring out the best in them – more than they ever thought possible.
However it’s not enough just to know how someone feels, the influential leader has developed good communication skills that include the ability to listen intently. Only when you learn to truly hear people will you develop insight, which helps you create the most innovative solutions possible. You create a team environment that fosters a synergy where, as a group, you accomplish greater things than you ever could as individuals.
We’ve only scratched the surface of how you can become a more influential leader. If you’re ready to accelerate your growth as a leader, please start making plans to join our next NLP Training. In a few days surrounded by like minded peers, you’ll learn how to create an outstanding and empowered life for yourself and those you lead.
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