Would you like to unlock the secret to becoming a more positive person despite the negativity around you? You don’t have to bury your head in the sand or become numb in order to cope with the daily stresses or even traumatic events. You can keep your balance, even when the world around you seems to be falling apart. How? We invite you to learn about NLP presuppositions and see if this isn’t the answer you’re looking for.
What are NLP presuppositions?
Neuro-Linguistic Programming presuppositions are ethical principles, beliefs or guiding philosophies that provide a positive and generative filter through which we see ourselves, others and situations in general. We pre-suppose them to be true and act as if they are true. If we obtain useful results from them, we continue to use them. Hence these beliefs become self-fulfilling.
There are many useful NLP presuppositions. Rather than listing all of them, let’s discuss a few, showing the value of each one. We’ll consider more in the future.
The map is not the territory.
You have your own map of reality. This means you interpret the world around you – what you see, what you hear, what you sense – based on your internalized map of reality, though it may not be reality at all. These interpretations determine how you experience each moment. And they form the foundation for your experience of reality in the future.
By deliberately choosing to interpret your reality differently, you change your experience of it. Your map of reality expands as you ask yourself, “How else can I look at this situation?” This gives you more choices and the flexibility to explore different points of view, which means you can counteract incorrect assumptions about how people operate and why they do the things that they do.
People work perfectly.
Neither you nor anyone else needs to be fixed. When you realize that all behavior has a structure, you see that people aren’t broken. They simply need to understand the structure and find new strategies for doing what they do in order to create a more desirable outcome.
People make the best choice they can at the time.
Give yourself a pass. You did your best according to the level of awareness that was available to you in that moment. As you gain awareness, you may regret past actions, yet you can overcome these regrets by gaining even more awareness.
And if someone caused you pain in the past, they did so based on their level of awareness at that time. They were trying to fulfill a certain value in their map of reality and didn’t know how else to go about it. Using this presupposition allows you to see the past hurt from a broader, more resourceful perspective that enables you to heal and let go.
You already have the resources you need or you can create them.
Resources mean the internal responses and external behaviors necessary for a desired outcome. Everything a person needs to effect a positive change is already in them. Often it’s a matter of not knowing what you know. To access your full range of resources you’ll want to consider yourself in all contexts. For example, perhaps you manage your household well, so then you can use these same skills when stepping into a business leadership role.
There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states of mind. When you know how to change your state, you can become more resourceful. State management is the key that either opens or locks the door to the infinite resources inside you. Appropriate states match the kind of resources you desire. For example, to be in a confident state, shift your body posture, breath and self-talk to that which matches confidence. You’ll feel more confident immediately.
There is no failure, only feedback.
Any skill talent or ability can be broken down into components that you can learn. It’s good to recognize that every result along the way gives you information that can cue new thinking abilities, emotional responses, and behavioral patterns. It opens the door to doing it differently next time, giving you the “I can” attitude. Every experience offers positive learning that stimulates intellectual and emotional growth.
We encourage you to try out these NLP presuppositions and see how they really can work for you. When you have a wide variety of choices and flexibility in your emotions, thoughts and behavior, you’ll be better equipped to cope with life’s ups and downs. And if you’d like to learn more about how NLP techniques can transform your life and also your clients’ lives, we invite you to join us for our Life Coaching Certification and NLP Training on October 17 – 20, 2019. Please note, the IPL Foundations program is a prerequisite for this course.