Build Meaningful Relationships that Nourish Your Soul and Help You Succeed in Life
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ~ Jim Rohn
If you really want to feel powerful and successful in your life, you must build meaningful relationships with others who are committed to the same goals. In fact, if you want to really thrive, you should surround yourself with people who are better at whatever you aspire to than you are! Who better to give you advice and guidance, and to model the kind of life and choices you want to be manifesting.
The people who know and care about you will be your greatest teachers, your most effective models for quality performance and your most truthful mirrors. They’ll be the ones you turn to when you’re confused, when you need help, and when you’re feeling emotionally fragile. These “low” times will occur in your life from time to time, you can count on that, and if you only have “fair weather friends”, the low times will be really hard.
You are only as strong as your support network so this why we chose Cultivating Nourishing Relationships with Others as the 5th Key to Living a Balanced Life. (We’ve been progressively sharing these keys in a series of articles for spiritual inspired life coaches on how to help their clients live a balanced life, however everyone can benefit from this topic.)
Many people struggle with building meaningful relationships because they keep themselves too busy or they fear intimacy and being vulnerable. So they don’t allow themselves to make that deeper, stronger connection. This can be a trap life coaches fall into. They expend themselves daily to professionally connect with clients and yet fail to find the time to make their own personal connections.
Or perhaps the reason you don’t open up is because you don’t really trust or like the people you’re associating with. Perhaps it’s time to upgrade your social support network. How do you do that?
Why you must build meaningful relationships in order to become the best you possible…
As we grow and mature, the relationships that we find nourishing also evolve. For most of us, for example, the kinds of relationships and the types of activities we shared with friends in high school are not what we find most rewarding now.
Many people hold on to relationships that no longer work. This is a way to create short-term comfort at the price of long-term pain. And holding on to toxic relationships will put your health and wellbeing at risk. The sooner you identify your needs and preferences, the sooner you’ll distinguish between the relationships that support you and those that do not. Once you can tell the difference, it’s time to advocate for what you want by saying “yes!” to some relationships and “no!” to others. As you do this, you’ll gradually build a social network that truly supports you.
Setting these limits and reaching for what you want is hard. Grieving for the people and relationships you’ve released is hard. This is, however, part of the path of becoming more yourself. You are worth it. If you do the work, you’ll reap outstanding benefits.
There are four primary skills that will help you forge meaningful relationships with the important people in your life:
- Practicing mindfulness – be present and fully aware of the other and of your own internal reactions.
- Conveying understanding – make sure he or she knows you got the message and that his or her feelings are validated.
- Allowing yourself to be moved – when you are emotionally open, your mirror neurons will help you resonate emotionally with the other person. This will help you perceive their point of view more accurately and increase the sense of rapport.
- Conveying caring – acknowledge how the other person is feeling emotionally and convey that this is important to you. Often caring is conveyed nonverbally.
These skills are not all that complex, but most people have plenty of room for improvement. If you’d like to delve deeper into how you can attain these skills, learn more about our course – Life in Balance: The Seven Keys. And be sure to use these improved skills when working with your coaching clients. In this way we can all help in making the world a better place.
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